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|Responsible Sports: Providing Feedback to Your Child
Last month, a Responsible Sports Parent wrote to our panel of experts to ask:
"My son is 9-years old and participates on our local wrestling team. His coaches use "corrective conditioning" (push-ups, running, frog jumps) for bad behavior or poor performance. How do I convince the coaches that they can get optimal response/performance without using corporal punishment?"
- Kim, a concerned parent
We asked two of our experts to weigh in. Momir Petkovic, 1976 Olympic Gold Medalist and Assistant National Greco-Roman Coach at USA Wrestling, had this to say:
I would have a conversation with the coach and remind him that your son is only 9-years-old. At that age, the kids are there to fall in love with the sport of wrestling. They are learning the basics of wrestling; they should not be miserable in practice because they are forced to do corrective conditioning instead of have fun and enjoy the sport. If this continues to happen at his age he may feel like coming to practice is not enjoyable and inevitably lose his passion to compete at all.
And Eric Eisendrath, Lead Trainer from Positive Coaching Alliance answered:
I see two issues at play here. One is your question concerning the use of “corrective conditioning” and the other is “How do I convince the coaches” that their approach is not beneficial.
I would like to address the second issue first. One of the more challenging aspects of youth sports for parents is working to sculpt exactly what their role should be. One of the tenants of PCA’s Second-Goal Parent philosophy is to have parents focus exclusively on “big picture” concerns, such as enjoyment, teamwork, and making friends. Positional play, refereeing competence, and strategic coaching decisions are “small picture” concerns. It is when parents stray into areas of “small picture” concerns that the coach-parent partnership becomes strained. When this occurs, it is often the child, caught in the middle, who is most impacted. It is not that parents don’t have a role; it is simply that their role is to provide unconditional love and support for their child independent of performance.
As for your second point, if you do find yourself coaching, I would concur that use of “corrective conditioning” is not an approach I would recommend. There are two reasons why I feel this way. By using conditioning as a punishment, you are attaching negative feelings to what should be a positive experience. It could be argued that strength (pushups), stamina (running) and agility (frog jumps) are beneficial attributes in becoming a valued member of the team. However, if you attach negative feelings to these types of exercises, it is quite likely that athletes will be more reluctant to do them. Secondly, by “punishing” athletes for poor play, you are creating a fear of making mistakes. This mindset is very damaging to an athlete’s development. Athletes who fear mistakes are less likely to push themselves past their comfort zone. It is critical that coaches create an atmosphere that recognizes that mistakes are an inevitable aspect of learning and growing. Thus, instilling “punishment” in the form of pushups, laps and frog jumps will only serve to make athletes more fearful of making mistakes and less likely to try new things.
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